Parent Digest

Short Daily Readings & Video Learning Aides

2009-03-15T17:24:00.000-07:00

( ... "Including 300 Videos and 208 Articles
on a Host of Parenting Topics, Issues and Inquiries.
Produced by an Assortment of Professional Teachers,
Authors and Counseling Therapists" ... )

Remember to consult the left column and below for the growing list of substantive teaching videos and writings by professionals on topics that effect parent and teen/parent and child relationships.)

Validation "IS" Imprtant!!!

2009-03-15T17:07:00.000-07:00

When To Stop Negotiating (1 of 3)

2008-04-17T23:21:00.000-07:00

When To Stop Negotiating (2 of 3)

2008-04-17T23:19:00.000-07:00

When To Stop Negotiating (3 of 3)

2008-04-17T23:10:00.000-07:00

Teen Prescription Drug Abuse (Tragedies)

2008-04-17T23:05:00.000-07:00

Children And Divorce

2008-04-13T18:27:00.000-07:00

Children And Divorce - Information We Need

2008-04-13T18:23:00.000-07:00

Ending "Morning Madness"

2008-04-13T18:21:00.000-07:00

Getting Kids To Do Homework

2008-04-13T18:19:00.000-07:00

Use "Stars" And "Sickers"?

2008-04-13T18:17:00.000-07:00

Stop The "Begging"

2008-04-13T18:15:00.000-07:00

The "I Can't" Anecdote

2008-04-13T18:12:00.000-07:00

The Four Question Challenge

2008-04-13T18:10:00.000-07:00

The "No" Replacement

2008-04-13T18:09:00.000-07:00

Positive Anger Explosion

2008-04-13T18:07:00.000-07:00

*Listen To The Tone Of Your Voice"

2008-04-13T18:05:00.000-07:00

Alternative To Saying "Don't"

2008-04-13T18:00:00.000-07:00

The Game of "Denial"

2008-04-06T23:28:00.000-07:00

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DENIAL™- (The Rules for 2007)

1. DENIAL™ is played with 1 die. Roll die to see who starts.Highest number starts.Ties roll again.

2. If you land on Alcohol going forward you slip back to Principal’s Office. If you land on Alcohol going backwards, it is a safe spot.

3. If you land on Tobacco going forward you slide back to Meeting with Parents. If you land on Tobacco going backwards, you rest on Tobacco as a safe spot.

4. If you land on a Choice spot, the person in front of you picks up the Choice card and reads you the question. When you answer the question you go forward or back depending on your answer. Ex. Go ahead 1 space, you advance one space and you stay on that spot until your next turn.

5. If you land on a Consequence spot, the person in front of you picks up the Consequence card and reads you the question.When you answer the question you go forward or back depending on your answer.Ex.. Go back 2 spaces. You go back 2 spaces and your turn is over. You stay on the spot you landed on.

6. Real life is about choices and consequences, the more right choices the better the results; the more bad choices, the more bad consequences.

7. The landing places are positives and negatives. The alcohol or drug squares have negative consequences. The positive squares have positive consequences to help speed you around the board.

8. Each time you pass start you pickup one chip. The first player to have four chips wins the game.

9. If you land on Detention Centre,Grounded or Cutting Classes, you miss a turn unless you have a Get Out of Trouble Free card. If you use your Get Out of Trouble Free card it is returned to the bottom of the deck.

10. Character qualities such as Decision Making, Handling Stress, A Student and Goal Setting have positive results as they advance you around the board.

11. If you land on Problem Solving, Peer Pressure or Custody or Jail, they are neutral spaces or free landing spots and you stay there, you do not go forward or back.

12. If you land on Drug Test, you go back 2 spaces to Inhalants and you stay there.

Best Education Reform: "More Sleep!"

2008-02-04T13:47:00.000-08:00

STARTING TOO EARLY
(The best education reform: More sleep.)
by STEPHEN MOORE
Friday, September 1, 2006 12:01 a.m. EDT

As a father of two teenage boys, I can attest to the fact that the single greatest teen crisis in America is not drugs, alcohol, smoking or early sexual activity, but sleep deprivation. Tuesday marks the start of the school year in our district in Fairfax, Va., and for the better part of the next nine months my kids will shuffle through the day resembling the zombies from "Night of the Living Dead." The reason that so many kids today appear to be slouching toward Gomorrah is simply that they lack sleep.

Waking teens from their deep REM sleep before 7 a.m.--which during late fall and winter is well before the rooster crows--is much like approaching a lion gnawing on an antelope carcass. All the niceties that we've tried to instill in our children for the past 15 years about honoring thy mother and father go flying out the window in these wee hours of the morning. Breakfasts from now until June will be as somber as the death row inmate's last meal. We shovel frosted flakes down their throats so that the temporary sugar fix arouses them out of their comatose state long enough to get them out the front door.

When I queried my kids and their friends recently about how they survive on seven hours of sleep a day, they confess that the strategy is to catch up on a few z's during first and second periods at school. That would be fine if the first subjects were classes like social studies, which indoctrinate them with anti-American ideals anyway. But get this: The educrats who run the Fairfax County schools front-load the vital subjects like math and English at the start of the day because they actually believe "that's when the kids are most alert."
It's astonishing that a community like Fairfax, which prides itself on the quality of its public schools, retains a 7:20 a.m. start time despite the detriment to the health and scholastic achievement of our kids. Parents with teens are in open revolt to the idiocy of the policy and have even started a Web site, SleepInFairfax.org, to fix it.

The school board insists that an 8:30 a.m. start time would cost the county some $40 million a year, because of unalterable bus schedules. Incredible. The legislators in our state just passed a $2 billion tax increase, the largest ever, to fund the latest education fads, like higher teacher pay and smaller class sizes--which studies all show will have almost no effect--but they can't afford a policy at a fraction of the cost that will do far more to benefit kids in terms of improved behavior, attendance, mood, health and test scores.

This controversy over early school start times is raging in hundreds of communities today, pitting parents against unbending school bureaucracies. Surveys of teen's parents in school districts with early start times find that as many as 90% favor a later starting bell. If ever there were a case study in how public school boards ignore the wishes of their "customers," it is this.

Meanwhile, research overwhelmingly confirms that lack of sleep in adolescents has become a horrendous health problem in America. The National Sleep Foundation finds that teens now average between 6.5 and seven hours of uninterrupted sleep on a weeknight and only one in five gets the recommended nine hours. Of course computer games, chat rooms, sports schedules and the like have a lot to do with the late nights.

But so do their biological clocks. Studies show that spurting growth hormones in teens alter their circadian rhythm and naturally turn them into night owls, physiologically uninterested in 9:30 p.m. bedtimes and fiercely opposed to 6:15 a.m. wake-up calls. (This fact suggests that I myself am still in late puberty.)

So here is the inevitable ritual: Kids trudge through the week on insufficient sleep, barely limp to the finish line on Fridays, use the weekends to pay off the week's sleep debt by snoozing until noon and then try to readjust their body clocks on Monday morning. Prof. Jim Moss, a sleep expert at Cornell, says: "It's as if at the start of every week our kids have West Coast to East Coast jet lag." He finds that in the early morning classroom "the overwhelming drive to sleep can replace any chance of alertness, cognition, memory or understanding."

And we also know that later school start times can reduce this affliction. Amy Wolfson, a professor at Holy Cross who studies Americans' sleep patterns, tells me: "The evidence is pretty clear that students in the later-starting schools get more sleep and have less tardiness, fewer behavior problems, and do somewhat better in school."

We're a society fixated on public policies that are "for the children," yet we tolerate school schedules that harm students and, worse yet, make what should be the best years of their lives needlessly miserable. Communities spend billions of dollars a year--with so-so success in fighting teen drug use--but sleep deprivation has all of the same disabling symptoms while being far more widespread. Perhaps it's time for a new campaign: This is your teenager's brain; this is your teen's brain (a fried egg) on six hours' sleep.

Mr. Moore is a member of The Wall Street Journal's editorial board.

Teenage Internet Addict Zombies!!!

2008-02-04T13:39:00.000-08:00

Teenage (Internet)Zombies
(Video games have sucked the life out of my kids.)
by STEPHEN MOORE

My new year's resolution is to get my two teenage sons back. They've been abducted--by the cult of Nintendo. I'm convinced that video games are Japan's stealth strategy to turn our kids' brains into silly putty as payback for dropping the big one on Hiroshima.

The trouble began last summer when my sons started spending virtually every unsupervised hour camped out in front of the computer screen engaged in multiplayer role games like World of Warcraft and Counterstrike. At the start of this craze, I wrote it off as merely a normal phase of adolescence. I was confident that, at 14 and 16, they would soon be more interested in chasing real-life girls than virtual video hoodlums.

Boy, was I wrong. Their compulsion became steadily more destructive. They grew increasingly withdrawn, walking around like the zombies from "Night of the Living Dead." Unless I pried them (forcibly) from the computer, they would spend five or six hours at a time absorbed in these online fantasy worlds. My wife tried to calm me down by observing that "at least they're not out having sex or doing drugs." But how would that be any worse?

Both are decent athletes, but their muscles began to atrophy right before our very eyes; their skin tone paled from lack of sunlight. Their idea of playing sports these days is inserting Madden football or the NBA slam-dunk game into our Xbox.

We recently considered purchasing the new Nintendo Wii, because at least its games--simulated bowling, snow boarding, guitar playing and motorcycling--require physical activity. Nintendo even advertises this product as good exercise for kids, and I have colleagues who swear that they get a great workout from Wii boxing and skiing. Alas, a new study from the British Health Journal suggest that Wii is no substitute for the real and vigorous outdoor exercise that adolescent boys need.

My wife and I aren't entirely inept parents--our 6-year-old seems fairly well-adjusted anyway. Back in October we established for the older boys strict screen-time limits. It was then that we discovered the true extent of their addiction. They ranted and raved and cursed and even threw things--almost as if demons had taken possession of them. These are classic withdrawal symptoms; they craved a fix. When we installed parental controls on the computer, our boys scoffed. It took them about 15 minutes to disable them. We've become so desperate that we may have to get rid of the computers entirely, though that may hamper their school work.
It turns out that we're not alone in our predicament. A parent down the street confided to us that his 12-year-old son was so obsessed with video games that he wouldn't take even a three-minute break from gaming to go to the bathroom--with unfortunate results. The other day we saw a kid at church, in a semi-trance, going down the aisle to Holy Communion while clicking on a hand-held Game Boy. Talk about worshiping a false god.

This summer the American Medical Association's annual conference debated a proposal to declare excessive video gaming a "formal disorder" in the category of other addictions like alcohol, drugs and gambling. One study released at the AMA conference found that many kids who spend a disproportionate amount of time playing games "achieve more control and success of their social relationships in the virtual reality realm than in real relationships."

I'm not one to blame every human frailty on some faddish psychiatric disorder. But I'm persuaded that computer games are the new crack cocaine. The testimonials from parents of online gamers are horrific: kids not taking showers, not eating or sleeping, falling behind in school. Some parents are forced to send their kids to therapeutic boarding schools, which charge up to $5,000 a month, to combat the gaming addiction.

The war lords of the gaming industry tout research on the positive attributes of gaming--and admittedly there are some. One study published this year in Psychological Science finds that gaming improves eyesight. A famous 2004 study by researchers at Beth Israel Medical Center in New York, found that video games improve manual dexterity and hand-eye coordination: "Doctors who spend at least 3 hours a week playing video games," the researchers reported, "made about 37% fewer mistakes in laproscopic surgery." Fine. I'll give my sons the joysticks back when they become orthopedic surgeons.

In the meantime, what is to be done? I'm not suggesting making the games illegal--we don't need a multibillion-dollar black market in video games. But I am pleading that parents take this social problem seriously and intervene, as my wife and I wish we had done much earlier.

November sales for the Xbox 360, Wii, PlayStation 3, and the games that go with them, were up a gaudy 52% over last year. In my neck of the woods, Wii's were such hot sellers that they weren't available in the stores at any price. I'm proud to report that we rejected our youngest son's pleas for a PlayStation for Christmas. He pouts that we're the meanest parents in the world. Someday he'll thank us. A mind really is a terrible thing to waste.

Mr. Moore is a member of The Wall Street Journal's editorial board.

Short Daily Readings & Video Learning Aides

2008-02-02T23:10:00.000-08:00

( ... "Including 282 Videos and 206 Articles
on a Host of Parenting Topics, Issues and Inquiries.
Produced by an Assortment of Professional Teachers,
Authors and Counseling Therapists" ... )

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Chris Chartier on Family Court Abuse (3 of 3)

2008-02-02T23:03:00.000-08:00

Chris Chartier on "Family Court Abuse" (2 of 3)

2008-02-02T23:00:00.000-08:00

Chris Chartier on "Family Court Abuse" (1 of 3)

2008-02-02T22:56:00.000-08:00

Bob Geldof on Parent Alienation (4 of 4)

2008-02-02T22:42:00.000-08:00

Bob Geldof on Parent Alienation (3 of 4)

2008-02-02T22:37:00.000-08:00

Bob Geldof on Parent Alienation (2 of 4)

2008-02-02T22:35:00.000-08:00

Bob Geldof on Parent Alienation (1 of 4)

2008-02-02T22:32:00.000-08:00

"Courts From Hell" (Author: Frank Simons)

2008-02-02T22:05:00.000-08:00

Parent Alienation Syndrom (Moreah Ragusa)

2008-02-02T21:52:00.000-08:00

Parent Alienation Syndrom (What Is It?)

2008-02-02T21:20:00.000-08:00

What is Parental Alienation Syndrome?

The term “parental alienation syndrome” (PAS) was first coined in 1985 by Dr. Richard Gardner, a child and forensic psychiatrist, to explain a destructive family dynamic that he observed in high-conflict divorces. He defined PAS as “a disorder that arises primarily in the context of child-custody disputes. Its primary manifestation is the child’s campaign of denigration against a parent, a campaign that has no justification. It results from the combination of a programming (brainwashing) parent’s indoctrinations and the child’s own contributions to the vilification of the target parent” (cited in Major, n.d.).

In PAS, one parent, either the father or the mother, or sometimes the new partner of an ex-spouse, attempts to alienate the child, or children, from the other parent. The process is manipulative and is a form of psychological child abuse. The goal of the alienating custodial parent is to restrict or eliminate access to the child by the other parent.

It is important to recognize that not all instances of a child’s rejection of a parent following divorce are due to parental alienation syndrome. A child may very well reject a parent, even before a marriage breakup, based on that parent’s actual behavior. As Dr. Gardner wrote, “Unfortunately, the term parental alienation syndrome is often used to refer to the animosity that a child may harbor against a parent who has actually abused the child, especially over an extended period. The term has been used to apply to the major categories of parental abuse, namely, physical, sexual, and emotional. Such application indicates a misunderstanding of the parental alienation syndrome. The term is applicable only when the parent has not exhibited anything close to the degree of alienating behavior that might warrant the campaign of denigration exhibited by the child” (cited in Wikipedia, n.d.).

Although PAS is not yet officially recognized as a syndrome by the American Psychological Association, it is now acknowledged in some courts of law, but not all. In either case there are certain criteria that must be met in order to distinguish between PAS and the common loyalty conflicts that occur in children of conflictual divorcing parents. PAS cannot be considered an operative process if a parent is seen to be attempting to alienate the child from the other parent, but the child is not successfully alienated.

Short Daily Reading & Video Learning Aides

2008-02-02T10:52:00.000-08:00

( ... "Including 273 Videos and 204 Articles
on a Host of Parenting Topics, Issues and Inquiries.
Produced by an Assortment of Professional Teachers,
Authors and Counseling Therapists" ... )

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A Poem To Mean Mom, - And Her Reply

2008-02-02T10:33:00.000-08:00

A Poem To Mean Mom, - And Her Response

My son came home from school one day,
With a smirk upon his face.
He decided he was smart enough,
To put me in my place.

'Guess what I learned in Civics Two,
That's taught by Mr. Wright?
It's all about the laws today,
The 'Children's Bill of Rights.'

It says I need not clean my room,
Don't have to cut my hair
No one can tell me what to think,
Or speak, or what to wear.

I have freedom from religion,
And regardless what you say,
I don't have to bow my head,
And I sure don't have to pray.

I can wear earrings if I want,
And pierce my tongue & nose.
I can read & watch just what I like,
Get tattoos from head to toe.

And if you ever spank me,
I'll charge you with a crime.
I'll back up all my charges,
With the marks on my behind.

Don't you ever touch me,
My body's only for my use,
Not for your hugs and kisses,
that's just more child abuse.

Don't preach about your morals,
Like your Mama did to you.
That's nothing more than mind control,
And it's illegal too!

Mom, I have these children's rights,
So you can't influence me,
Or I'll call Children's Services Division,
Better known as C.S.D.'

...

Mom's Reply and Thoughts:

Of course my first instinct was
To toss him out the door.
But the chance to teach him a lesson
Made me think a little more.

I mulled it over carefully,
I couldn't let this go.
A smile crept upon my face,
He's messing with a pro.

Next day I took him shopping
At the local Goodwill Store.
I told him, 'Pick out all you want,
there's shirts & pants galore.

I've called and checked with C.S.D.
Who said they didn't care
If I bought you K-Mart shoes
Instead of those Nike Airs.

I've canceled that appointment
To take your driver's test.
The C.S.D. Is unconcerned
So I'll decide what's best.

I said 'No time to stop and eat,
Or pick up stuff to munch.
And tomorrow you can start to learn
To make your own sack lunch.

Just save the raging appetite,
And wait till dinner time.
We're having liver and onions,
A favorite dish of mine.'

He asked 'Can I please rent a movie,
To watch on my VCR?'
'Sorry, but I sold your TV,
For new tires on my car.'

I also rented out your room,
You'll take the couch instead.
The C.S.D. requires
Just a roof over your head.

Your clothing won't be trendy now,
I'll choose what we will eat.
That allowance that you used to get,
Will buy me something neat.

I'm selling off your jet ski,
Dirt-bike & roller blades.
Check out the 'Parents Bill of Rights',
It's in effect today!

Hey hot shot, are you crying,
Why are you on your knees?
Are you asking God to help you out,
Instead of C.S.D..?'

MOM (Mean Old Mother)

Parent Alienation Syndrome

2008-01-27T13:21:00.000-08:00

Choosing A Good Therapist

2008-01-26T00:19:00.000-08:00

Are You A Good Mom???

2008-01-26T00:10:00.000-08:00

William Tell Mom!!!

2008-01-26T00:07:00.000-08:00

Internet Addiction Disorder???

2008-01-25T22:52:00.000-08:00

Single Parent Childcare

2008-01-25T12:21:00.000-08:00

1. "How do I find affordable child care as a single parent?"
2. "How long can I leave my child alone if I'm a single parent?"
3. "Are after-school activities helpful for a single parent?"
4. "Where can I find after-school activities for my child?"
5. "How can I find other single parents to share childcare?"
6. "How do I find a babysitter if I'm a single parent?"

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Single Parent Work Issues

2008-01-25T12:15:00.000-08:00

1. "Should I talk to my boss about my situation?"
2. "How can I spend time with my child if I work?"
3. "Can I get a flexible work schedule as I am a single parent?"
4. "What if I can't afford to work part time and can't afford childcare?"
5. "Should I go back to school to get a better job if I'm a single parent?"
6. "How do I find time to go back to school if I'm a single parent?"

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Single Parent Finances

2008-01-25T12:07:00.000-08:00

1. "Why is a "budget" important for a single parent?"
2. "Should I rely on credit cards as a single parent?"
3. "How can I get my ex to help pay for the children's expenses?"
4. "Are there tax breaks for single parents?"
5. "How can a single parent save on groceries?"
6. "What if my ex has ruined my credit?"
7. "How do I establish or improve my credit as a single parent?"
8. "What are money-saving tips for a single parent?"

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Single Parent Time Management

2008-01-25T12:01:00.000-08:00

1. "Why is 'time management' important to a single parent?"
2. "How do I manage my time as a single parent?"
3. "How do I schedule my time with each child as a single parent?"
4. "How do I make time to do chores and errands as a single parent?"
5. "How do I make time to cook for my children as a single parent?"
6. "How do I make time for myself as a single parent?"

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Single Parent Discipline Of Children

2008-01-25T11:44:00.000-08:00

1. "Will discipling my children make them love their other parent more?"
2. "How do I discipline my child if I'm a single parent?"
3. "What if my child's other parent does not discipline?"
4. "How do I solve discipline issues with my child's other parent?"
5. "What if my child becomes unmanageable because of the separation?"
6. "What if single parenting makes me too tired to deal with my kids?"
7. "What if single parenting makes me impatient with my kids?"

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Single Parent Housing

2008-01-25T10:31:00.000-08:00

1. "Who should move out after a family separation?"
2. "Where am I going to live if I become a single parent?"
3. "Should I move in with a relative if I become a single parent?"
4. "How can I afford housing if I become a single parent?"
5. "What assistance is available for a single parent?"
6. "Are there programs where single parents can live together?"
7. "What are the benefits of living with another single parent?"
8. "What if the other parent's home is not child-proofed?"

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Preparing Yourself For Single Parenting

2008-01-25T10:22:00.000-08:00

1. "Is there any way to financially prepare for single parenting?"
2. "Why is it important to find support before single parenting?"
3. "How do I find support before becoming a single parent?"
4. "When should I find a lawyer during a family separation?"
5. "Why is mediation better than a lawyer during a family separation?"
6. "Why should I stay on good terms with my partner during separation?"
7. "What if my partner refuses to be civil during our separation?"
8. "How can my partner and I keep our separation civil?"

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Single Parent Basics

2008-01-25T10:15:00.000-08:00

1. "Are there benefits to being a single parent?"
2. "What are the challenges of being a single parent?"
3. "How do I know if I can handle being a single parent?"
4. "What is the key to being a good single parent?"
5. "Does single parenting change depending on the age of the child?"
6. "What if I unexpectedly become a single parent?"
7. "What are the do's and don't's of shared parent custody?"
8. "Why should I keep a journal as a single parent?"

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Preparing Children For Single Parenting

2008-01-25T10:09:00.000-08:00

1. When should I talk to my child about our family separation?
2. How can I help my child cope with family separation?
3. How to my explain my partner's abandonment to my child?
4. What if my child is angry at me for the family separation?
5. What if my child becomes distant during the family separation?
6. Should I allow my children to decide their custody?
7. Should I tell my child's school about the family separation?
8. Should my children tell their friends about the family separation?
9. How should parents divide a child's property?

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Single Parenting Emotions

2008-01-25T10:04:00.000-08:00

1. "Is it normal to feel depressed about single parenting?"
2. "How do I cope with depression as a single parent?"
3. "Is it normal to feel inadequate about single parenting?"
4. "How do I become more confident as a single parent?"
5. "How do I handle the stress of single parenting?"

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Single Parenting Resources

2008-01-25T09:59:00.000-08:00

1. "Where can I find resources for single parents?"
2. "What is a 'single parent support group'?"
3. "Why should I join a single parent support group?"
4. "How do I start a single parent support group?"

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Single Parenting And Dating

2008-01-25T09:48:00.000-08:00

1. "What are some dating tips for single parents?"
2. "Where can I find a date if I'm a single parent?"
3. "What is a good tip for dating another single parent?"
4. "Will my child become angry if I start dating?"
5. "What should I tell my child about my dating?"
6. "When should I introduce a date to my child?"
7. "If I'm a single parent, should I allow dates to sleep over?"
8. "Should I allow a new partner to move in with the family?"
9. "What are some tips for dating after a divorce?"

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Single Parenting And Visitation

2008-01-25T09:21:00.000-08:00

1. "How do I plan my children's visit to see their other parent?"
2. "How do I make my children's "hand-off" less stressful?"
3. "What if my children ask to visit their other parent?"
4. "What if I don't want my children to visit their other parent?"
5. "What if the other parent refuses to let me see my child?"
6. "How do I control my jealousy when my child visits the other parent?"
7. "What if my child's other parent is negligent or irresponsible?"
8. "How do I make the most of my child's weekend visits?"
9. "How can I get my children's other parent to see them more often?"
10. "Why does my child seem angry after spending time with the other?"
11. "What if my child wants to come home early from the other parent?"

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Single Parenting And My Ex's New Spouse

2008-01-24T18:58:00.000-08:00

Part 1: "Should I allow my child to call my ex's new spouse mom or dad?"
Part 2: "What if I'm jealous of my ex's new spouse?"
Part 3: "What if my ex's new spouse spoils my child?"
Part 4: "What if my ex's new spouse talks badly about me?"
Part 5: "What if my ex's new spouse mistreats my child?"
Part 6: "How should I handle custody arrangements if my ex remarries?"

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Single Parenting During The Holidays

2008-01-24T18:37:00.000-08:00

Part 1: "What if my children are with the other parent for the holidays?"
Part 2: "How can I as a single parent make a holiday fun for my child?"
Part 3: "What if I can't afford to give my child a great holiday?"
Part 4: "How do I share my child's birthday with my ex?"

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James Lehman's Total Transformation

2007-11-11T15:59:00.000-08:00

Embracing Kids' Failures [4:02]

2007-11-11T15:49:00.000-08:00

How To Praise Children [3:42]

2007-11-11T15:46:00.000-08:00

Effort, Not Achievement [3:28]

2007-11-11T15:42:00.000-08:00

Fostering Growth Mindsets [4:14]

2007-11-11T15:40:00.000-08:00

Emotional Literacy [4:10]

2007-11-11T15:37:00.000-08:00

Teaching Your Child Gratitude [3:31]

2007-11-11T15:32:00.000-08:00

Child's Pet Dies (What to do?)

2007-11-11T15:28:00.000-08:00

"What do you say to a child after they have suddenly lost a pet that was hit by a car?" (3:47)

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15 yr. old & Internet Porn (Help!)

2007-11-11T15:16:00.000-08:00

"We have just discovered our 15 yr old son was looking at internet pornography. Do you have any practical suggestions on how to help him curb the urge and stay away from it?" (3:20)

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Voicing Behavior Expectations (#1)

2007-11-11T15:02:00.000-08:00

Voicing Behavior Expectations (#2)

2007-11-11T14:58:00.000-08:00

NPA Theory (Predicting Child Personalities?)

2007-11-11T14:55:00.000-08:00

Charlie the "Karate-Chimp"!!!!!

2007-11-11T00:23:00.000-08:00

Charlie the "Karate-Chimp" Music Video!!!!!

2007-11-11T00:18:00.000-08:00

*Bully "9-11", - Protect Your Children"

2007-11-11T00:11:00.000-08:00

How To Break Free From a Bully’s Arm-Grab

2007-11-11T00:08:00.000-08:00

How To Break Free From a Straight Choke

2007-11-11T00:05:00.000-08:00

How To Break Free From a Headlock

2007-11-11T00:03:00.000-08:00

How To Defend Against a Hair-Grab

2007-11-11T00:00:00.000-08:00

How To Defend Against a Forearm-Grab

2007-11-10T23:58:00.000-08:00

How To Defend Against a Cross-Arm Grab

2007-11-10T23:55:00.000-08:00

How To Defend Against a Shoulder-Grab

2007-11-10T23:52:00.000-08:00

How To Defend Against a Rear Choke Hold

2007-11-10T23:50:00.000-08:00

How To Break Free From a Bear-Hug

2007-11-10T23:48:00.000-08:00

Girl Escapes From Wrist-Grabs & Choke-Holds

2007-11-10T23:45:00.000-08:00

Don't Flip-Out Choosing Wallpaper!

2007-11-10T08:33:00.000-08:00

One Sport Per Child Per Season

2007-11-10T08:31:00.000-08:00

Parenting The Old Fashion Way

2007-11-10T07:59:00.000-08:00

Be Aware Of How You React

2007-11-08T21:48:00.000-08:00

Decrease Competitiveness

2007-11-08T21:39:00.000-08:00

Victimization of Media's Coverage

2007-11-08T21:24:00.000-08:00

Substance Abuse & Victimization

2007-11-07T23:25:00.000-08:00

All Children Want To Belong

2007-11-07T23:19:00.000-08:00

Children Should Earn What They Get

2007-11-07T23:16:00.000-08:00

Have Small Intimate Get-Togethers

2007-11-07T23:12:00.000-08:00

Work Changes Into Your Life Gradually

2007-11-07T23:08:00.000-08:00

Parent Professor: "Stop Kid-Whining!"

2007-11-04T22:58:00.000-08:00

Parent Professor: "Kid Responsibility"

2007-11-04T22:55:00.000-08:00

Parent Professor: "Kid Bedtime Blues"

2007-11-04T22:51:00.000-08:00

Bill Cosby on Parenting (April of 2007)

2007-11-04T22:48:00.000-08:00

Bill Cosby: "Come On People" (#1)

2007-11-04T22:43:00.000-08:00

Bill Cosby: "Come On People" (#2)

2007-11-04T22:41:00.001-08:00

*Bill Cosby: "Come On People" (#3)

2007-11-04T22:25:00.000-08:00

Bill Cosby: "Come On People" (#4)

2007-11-04T22:22:00.000-08:00

Bill Cosby: "Come On People" (#5)

2007-11-04T22:16:00.000-08:00

Bill Cosby: "Come On People" (#6)

2007-11-04T22:13:00.000-08:00

Parent Digest

*Short Daily Readings & Video Learning Aides*

*Validation "IS" Imprtant!!!*

*When To Stop Negotiating (1 of 3)*

*When To Stop Negotiating (2 of 3)*

*When To Stop Negotiating (3 of 3)*

*Teen Prescription Drug Abuse (Tragedies)*

*Children And Divorce*

*Children And Divorce - Information We Need*

*Ending "Morning Madness"*

*Getting Kids To Do Homework*

*Use "Stars" And "Sickers"?*

*Stop The "Begging"*

*The "I Can't" Anecdote*

*The Four Question Challenge*

*The "No" Replacement*

*Positive Anger Explosion*

*Listen To The Tone Of Your Voice"

*Alternative To Saying "Don't"*

*The Game of "Denial"*

*Best Education Reform: "More Sleep!"*

*Teenage Internet Addict Zombies!!!*

*Short Daily Readings & Video Learning Aides*

*Chris Chartier on Family Court Abuse (3 of 3)*

*Chris Chartier on "Family Court Abuse" (2 of 3)*

*Chris Chartier on "Family Court Abuse" (1 of 3)*

*Bob Geldof on Parent Alienation (4 of 4)*

*Bob Geldof on Parent Alienation (3 of 4)*

*Bob Geldof on Parent Alienation (2 of 4)*

*Bob Geldof on Parent Alienation (1 of 4)*

*"Courts From Hell" (Author: Frank Simons)*

*Parent Alienation Syndrom (Moreah Ragusa)*

*Parent Alienation Syndrom (What Is It?)*

*Short Daily Reading & Video Learning Aides*

*A Poem To Mean Mom, - And Her Reply*

*Parent Alienation Syndrome*

*Choosing A Good Therapist*

*Are You A Good Mom???*

*William Tell Mom!!!*

*Internet Addiction Disorder???*

*Single Parent Childcare*

*Single Parent Work Issues*

*Single Parent Finances*

*Single Parent Time Management*

*Single Parent Discipline Of Children*

*Single Parent Housing*

*Preparing Yourself For Single Parenting*

*Single Parent Basics*

*Preparing Children For Single Parenting*

*Single Parenting Emotions*

*Single Parenting Resources*

*Single Parenting And Dating*

*Single Parenting And Visitation*

*Single Parenting And My Ex's New Spouse*

*Single Parenting During The Holidays*

*James Lehman's Total Transformation*

*Embracing Kids' Failures* [4:02]

*How To Praise Children* [3:42]

*Effort, Not Achievement* [3:28]

*Fostering Growth Mindsets* [4:14]

*Emotional Literacy* [4:10]

*Teaching Your Child Gratitude* [3:31]

*Child's Pet Dies (What to do?)*

*15 yr. old & Internet Porn (Help!)*

*Voicing Behavior Expectations (#1)*

*Voicing Behavior Expectations (#2)*

*NPA Theory (Predicting Child Personalities?)*

*Charlie the "Karate-Chimp"!!!!!*

*Charlie the "Karate-Chimp" Music Video!!!!!*

*Bully "9-11", - Protect Your Children"

*How To Break Free From a Bully’s Arm-Grab*

*How To Break Free From a Straight Choke*

*How To Break Free From a Headlock*

*How To Defend Against a Hair-Grab*

*How To Defend Against a Forearm-Grab*

*How To Defend Against a Cross-Arm Grab*

*How To Defend Against a Shoulder-Grab*

*How To Defend Against a Rear Choke Hold*

*How To Break Free From a Bear-Hug*

*Girl Escapes From Wrist-Grabs & Choke-Holds*

Short Daily Readings & Video Learning Aides

Validation "IS" Imprtant!!!

When To Stop Negotiating (1 of 3)

When To Stop Negotiating (2 of 3)

When To Stop Negotiating (3 of 3)

Teen Prescription Drug Abuse (Tragedies)

Children And Divorce

Children And Divorce - Information We Need

Ending "Morning Madness"

Getting Kids To Do Homework

Use "Stars" And "Sickers"?

Stop The "Begging"

The "I Can't" Anecdote

The Four Question Challenge

The "No" Replacement

Positive Anger Explosion

Alternative To Saying "Don't"

The Game of "Denial"

Best Education Reform: "More Sleep!"

Teenage Internet Addict Zombies!!!

Short Daily Readings & Video Learning Aides

Chris Chartier on Family Court Abuse (3 of 3)

Chris Chartier on "Family Court Abuse" (2 of 3)

Chris Chartier on "Family Court Abuse" (1 of 3)

Bob Geldof on Parent Alienation (4 of 4)

Bob Geldof on Parent Alienation (3 of 4)

Bob Geldof on Parent Alienation (2 of 4)

Bob Geldof on Parent Alienation (1 of 4)

"Courts From Hell" (Author: Frank Simons)

Parent Alienation Syndrom (Moreah Ragusa)

Parent Alienation Syndrom (What Is It?)

Short Daily Reading & Video Learning Aides

A Poem To Mean Mom, - And Her Reply

Parent Alienation Syndrome

Choosing A Good Therapist

Are You A Good Mom???

William Tell Mom!!!

Internet Addiction Disorder???

Single Parent Childcare

Single Parent Work Issues

Single Parent Finances

Single Parent Time Management

Single Parent Discipline Of Children

Single Parent Housing

Preparing Yourself For Single Parenting

Single Parent Basics

Preparing Children For Single Parenting

Single Parenting Emotions

Single Parenting Resources

Single Parenting And Dating

Single Parenting And Visitation

Single Parenting And My Ex's New Spouse

Single Parenting During The Holidays

James Lehman's Total Transformation

Embracing Kids' Failures [4:02]

How To Praise Children [3:42]

Effort, Not Achievement [3:28]

Fostering Growth Mindsets [4:14]

Emotional Literacy [4:10]

Teaching Your Child Gratitude [3:31]

Child's Pet Dies (What to do?)

15 yr. old & Internet Porn (Help!)

Voicing Behavior Expectations (#1)

Voicing Behavior Expectations (#2)

NPA Theory (Predicting Child Personalities?)

Charlie the "Karate-Chimp"!!!!!

Charlie the "Karate-Chimp" Music Video!!!!!

How To Break Free From a Bully’s Arm-Grab

How To Break Free From a Straight Choke

How To Break Free From a Headlock

How To Defend Against a Hair-Grab

How To Defend Against a Forearm-Grab

How To Defend Against a Cross-Arm Grab

How To Defend Against a Shoulder-Grab

How To Defend Against a Rear Choke Hold

How To Break Free From a Bear-Hug

Girl Escapes From Wrist-Grabs & Choke-Holds

Don't Flip-Out Choosing Wallpaper!

One Sport Per Child Per Season

Parenting The Old Fashion Way